Tuesday, July 31, 2012

Moderation is the key...

Comments on my blog are moderated. By me. Cause it's my blog.

Just thought I should put that out there. So if you make a comment on the blog it first is visible only to me. I read it then approve it for posting. This keeps two things from happening in the comments section, first off no spam posts. Though I am sure that there are some of you out there that might be totally interested in how Gina met a rich single millionaire I am thinking most of you have already met your millionaire and are now reading my blog while relaxing on your yachts.

Secondly, and most importantly, it keeps things a little more polite. You don't have to agree with me. I have such a variety of friends that there is no way that each blog I write will be met with universal approval. Sometimes I know that I am pissing off a good chunk of you with every word I put on the screen. But what I do insist is that you add more to the discussion than "You stupid bitch". You can disagree. Post about why. Even post something that has nothing to do with what I was talking about. But keep it civil.

I know this seems a little shocking to all of you since I am blue in my word choice quite often. I am unsparing with my opinions and I am unflinching in my resolve (at times, except when you make a really good point and I have to change my mind) but here is the thing, I am me. I'm not hiding behind an anonymous screen name and saying vile things. Or screaming them (caps lock is yelling). I'm writing this blog as my opinion, my thoughts, my reasons on what I believe and why. And one of the things I believe is that anonymous posting on the internet turns a lot of people into jerks.

If you and I were sitting in Starbucks having a cup of coffee discussing gay rights and we took opposite sides of the issue the odds of it ending in us screaming at each other (forgive my language here, just an example): HOMOPHOBIC REDNECK IGNORAMUS!
are very very small.  But you see it online all of the time. Discussions devolve into name calling. You feel safe behind your computer screen to let your anger out. But it's not productive. It's not okay. And it goes against my most basic rule of life. Don't be rude.

So yes, I moderate my comments. And no, not all of them make it on to the blog. But it's not because you disagreed with me, it's because I need more reasoning than, "YOU ARE A QUEER LOVING SINNER WHO WILL BURN IN HELL!" Not that I'm not a lover of queers and if you believe in hell then you probably believe I'm headed there for a lot of reasons, but really, you need to add more to the discussion than that, so try harder, won't you? Disagree. Argue. Make your points. But don't be rude about it.  Same goes for the Facebook page tied to the blog. I will delete comments that veer off in to the insulting without adding territory.

Moderation in all things....